What if love is not enough

Relationships take time and you need to be willing to invest in them. Choosing to be with someone means taking the time to show them why you want to be with them, and letting them spend time doing the same with you.

Be patient with your partner, and yourself, in the early days. As time goes by and you get more comfortable with each other, remember to retain this patience. Having compassion for someone is so important, as it helps build trust, intimacy, and deeper connections.

By being empathetic, you allow your partner to be their true selves around you. In reality, you must be able to love yourself before others truly can. Without a level of self-love, you will never fully accept how someone else feels about you. Resentment is such an issue in many relationships, and grudge-holding can cause a lot of problems further down the line. Acceptance involves communication…. Unfortunately, happiness is not always contagious.

Whether this reflects an incompatibility or just you not wanting to be in a relationship , this desire to be without them could override happiness. This is normal to do occasionally, but it becomes a problem when the fantasizing is constant, says Hershenson. If you have "love", "passion", "romantic", you name it, then every problem in your love life is not a problem. However, in fact this is not completely correct. For having a happy love life, love is not enough.

There are still many things will change your love life entirely if you mistakenly do it. Attraction is so powerful that you can't calm yourself down to analyze the situation you are now with, you could make a lot of mistakes but never realize it. Now you know that fact that love has to exist with attraction. See also attraction vs love. However, to make your love works, there's not only infatuation needed in it.

In my free ebook Relationships Made Simple I mentioned that attraction happens and triggers at instinctive level. The feeling of sexual attraction is to ensure the continuous of reproduction of human species. It happens naturally without needing you to control it. You are attracted to her is not because she did something to you, said something to you, or gave something to you.

You are attracted to her is because she fits to your attraction criteria. And your attraction criteria is in the subconscious mind , so you are not logically to choose to be attracted to someone like "I like her because she has a pair of long legs, blah blah blah". You may realize that, the woman you like currently is totally not the same like the first woman you liked.

It's because attraction is not in control, she doesn't need to do many things to attract you, and you don't need to convince yourself to love someone, all these happen naturally. People feel love is enough, love solves every problem in your love life, is because the "Attraction" take over their mind at that moment. You may feel that you need to confess your feelings to her because you love her, you need to let her know your feelings.

Chances are, it only will backfire the relationship. See: How to not confess your love. Some people even will take extreme action to prove his love to her due to lack of ability to control his feelings for a woman.

Not because they don't understand what is right or wrong, but when the attraction is too strong and they are not mature enough to get themselves in control, chances are they will make mistakes unconsciously because at the moment it just feels right.

In my free ebook Success Made Certain I explained that everyone has different maturity, and matches of maturity is important to having a good relationship. Basically, maturity is a set of views and beliefs on things. They can be categorized into personal values, phylosphies of life, and world view which are personal level, social level, and worldwide level respectively.

If you two have different maturity, it's hard to reach to mutual acceptance sometimes. Therefore, all three levels are important in your relationships. Knowledge and beliefs about love is categorize into personal level. Many guys fail to get women attracted to them is because they have limiting beliefs above love.

See: 7 limiting beliefs about love in men. When you lack of knowledge about love, it's easily to be caught up in her drama and selfishness. Most guys will treat women as nice as them can just want to satisfy her desire.

Eventually, your woman will be tired of you because you are not a challenge to her anymore. Women secretly crave for the challenges to get a man she likes to like her back. When you are not a challenge to her anymore, her attraction for you will fade out very soon. See: Warning: Stop being a nice guy. Eventually, your relationships are full with anger, hatred and bitterness. Undoubtedly this is harmful to your relationships.

When you two have too much difference of maturity, that means you two are not compatible currently. It's love that brings you two to be together, but it's also love separates you two, because when you and her are not compatible, being together is merely continually harm each other. A healthy love is it should makes you two better and happier than before when both of you are single.

You will naturally want to improve yourself, and the reason is obvious, because you love her. Your woman should makes you better as an individual.

If the love between you and her is not happy and this keeps for a long time, perhaps you need to rethink carefully about your love. However, first and foremost, we have to love ourselves before we love others. Love is not something that need to compromise our passions and dreams. In my free ebook Attract Women With Personal Boundaries I said that we need to conserve resources in order to share the resources with others.

If you don't love yourself, how could you love others? Simple question. Therefore, please not forgetting or compromising who you are when you are in love. You still have your dream life , your goals , your mission in life , your business, etc. Think carefully, is love all you need? As an attractive and alpha man, love merely as an ingredient in life, but not the ultimate goal. When your life is only existing of her but nothing else, it's when your relationships starts to lost control.

When it comes to relationships, you've probably heard the romantic sentiment that love conquers all. At this point, it seems a bit redundant to blame Disney movies for setting this lofty expectation.

But, is love enough to keep a relationship going if the other important aspects of a healthy partnership aren't there? Anyone who's ever broken up with someone they still loved would probably say no. According to Dr.