Anxiety about a decline in living standards for themselves and their children Reinforcement of clergy and secular counselors of "saving" a couple's relationship at all costs, rather than the goal of stopping the violence.
Lack of support to victims by police officers and law enforcement who may treat violence as a "domestic dispute," instead of a crime where one person is physically attacking another person. Often, victims of abuse are arrested and charged by law enforcement even if they are only defending themselves against the batterer.
Dissuasion by police of the victim filing charges. Some dismiss or downplay the abuse, side with the abuser, or do not take the victims account of the abuse seriously. Reluctance by prosecutors to prosecute cases. Some may convince the abuser to please to a lesser charge, thus further endangering victims. Additionally, judges rarely impose the maximum sentence upon convicted abusers. Probation or a fine is much more common. This type of behavior is known as gaslighting.
A lot of people in abusive relationships stay in them because they love their partner and think that things will change. Never stay in a relationship in which you count on someone to change their behavior for the better.
There is incredible pressure to be in a perfect relationship, and some cultures and social media only accentuate this pressure. People in abusive relationships often feel embarrassed to admit that their partner is abusive for fear of being judged, blamed, marginalized, pitied or looked down on.
Marriage, children, and shared finances are often huge reasons that people in abusive relationships stay in them. This dependency is heightened in relationships where one partner is differently abled. And while seeking help to get out of these relationships is the most important thing, blaming someone in an abusive relationship is never okay. There is a big difference between judgment and responsibility.
While someone might have used bad judgment by staying in an unhealthy or dangerous situation, it does not mean that they are responsible, or asking, for the abuse perpetrated against them. He researches deception, communication, and abuse in relationships and is the author of the upcoming book Love me True: Overcoming the Surprising Ways We Deceive in Relationships For more information visit drjasonwhiting.
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A typology of domestic violence: Intimate terrorism, violent resistance, and situational couple violence. Boston: Northeastern University Press. Merchant, L. Sign up for our mailing list to receive ongoing updates from IFS. Interested in learning more about the work of the Institute for Family Studies? Please feel free to contact us by using your preferred method detailed below. What keeps people in abusive relationships? It could be any one, or a combination of, the following:.
But leaving does not guarantee safety — in fact, it often escalates the violence. When a victim attempts to leave or threatens to leave, the abuser may feel he has lost control and escalate the violence. Most domestic violence-related homicides occur after the victim has left, attempted to leave or has threatened to leave. If they are without they need resources that can help them remain safe.
Abuse is a process, not an event. On average, female victims leave and return to the relationship seven times because abusers often apologize and promise to change after a victim leaves.
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